On Being Decisive – Yes & No

Once there was a man who went to the psychiatrist for a problem he was having and the doctor said, “I understand you are having difficulty making decisions, is that true?”

“Well, yes and no,” said the man!

Point made!   We all have difficulty making decisions from time to time!   To be decisive is a rather rare attribute, that can be both good and bad.  See what I mean!

But, there comes a time when we do have to finally make up our mind.  Knowing the difference between time and delay and carefully weighing our options is hard to put your finger on.  There is what we might call however, “Paralysis by analysis!”

Some of the places we may have problems are as follows:

  • Do I go to college or do I get a job?
  • Do I work part time or full time?
  • Shall I choose this career or that career?
  • Will I marry this person or not?
  • If so, when?
  • Are we well matched?
  • Will we be happy together?
  • Are we compatible?
  • What movie are we going to go see?
  • Where do you want to go to eat?
  • What am I going to do today?
  • What color shall I choose?
  • Regarding weather – fly or no go?
  • What sports coat looks best on me?
  • What about those designer jeans?
  • What hair style should I wear?

Well, by now, I am sure you get the picture.  Some things are of course more easy to decide and the choice is of a lower consequence.  While on the other hand some things are a powerful and long lasting choice with significant consequences that can affect us for the rest of our lives.

When you are confronted with a choice – try to weight out the pros and cons and then make the best decision you can under the circumstances.  When it comes to more important decisions, think a lot harder and really try to project the aftermath and the circumstances to follow, but don’t let that necessarily stop you from moving forward.  Just try to make a really good decision, for the moment of absolute certainty never arrives, in most cases.  In others it most nearly does.  So listen to your “gut feelings” and more times than not you will make the right decision.

So, for today, what is the question or questions for you???

Be careful, for you have to live with your choices, at least for a little while, until you change your mind!


Burning the Midnight Oil

Somewhere around 1898, most of our late night lamps were fueled by whale oil and the once ample supply was just about out!   Then, all of a sudden, as if by magic, oil was discovered in Pennsylvania.  The entire world pivoted on this great event!

There are times, when the weight of the world is upon us, we struggle, we wiggle, we dust off our bottoms and get on with whatever the task is before us, and often we are “Burning the midnight oil” to get’er done!  The job or work before us, may be daunting and even overwhelming, but we persevere, we keep going and we don’t quit!!!  Many time our lives “pivot” on our success or failure!

How often have you been under this can of pressure?  There are a number of times, that I can recall when I felt that I had reached the end of my rope, as the saying goes.  When I did not think that I could do one more thing or last one more second!

Fortunately, for me, these occasions have been rather few and far between.  A long time ago, for some reason, I know not why, I developed the ability to withstand the uncomfortable and the unbearable.  Most conditions are not permanent and only last for a period of time.  Knowing this helps to look past the present unpleasantness and toward the redeeming future.  Call it forbearance, call it tolerance, call it what you will, it is the ability to post pone the actual realization of reality to a later time.  The reality may however, hit you at a later time, when it is more tolerable and can be more tolerably disposed of and/or dealt with.  It is not easy under any circumstances!  I believe that it is a method of mind over matter, as they say, if you don’t mind, it doesn’t matter!

The midnight oil burns for all of us, depending on what it is that we do.  We burn it during the day, in the evening and through the midnight as needed to make the wheels of success turn for us in the direction we want to go.  It is often a matter of “Attitude” that we develop to keep us going, to pick up the energy we need to get to the finish line!

Some of the things we might be involved with are as follows:

  • Cramming for finals or that special test.
  • Childbirth or pregnancy.
  • Suffering through an injury or some special pain.
  • Having to take a performance test of some kind.
  • A special job project we are working on.
  • The writing of a book – perhaps your first novel.
  • Repairing or rebuilding an engine – such as your car.
  • Trying to make that next commission sale.
  • Getting through a divorce.
  • Going through a spiritual breakdown.
  • Making a career choice.
  • Finding a job – especially one you like.
  • Learning how to cook.
  • Buying a car.
  • Being low on food or money.
  • Any emergency.
  • Anything that may stress you out!


Life can be difficult!  That is for sure!  Do your best in all that you do and that is all that you can do!  You and the “Midnight Oil” will often pull you through!  Don’t give up for often “Success” is just around the corner!

Good luck!!!